Have you ever dimmed your light or stepped back, because someone might think you’re weird, or it wasn’t “the right” place or time, or you didn’t want to be judged?
I’ve coached, led and taught thousands of people throughout my career, and I can tell you, with the utmost confidence, that most people will answer that last question with a yes. Yet, if we’re not true to ourselves, we cannot feel fulfilled, because we are wired to be our individual, awesome, delightfully quirky, one-of-a-kind Selves!
I believe that the time for encouraging, rather than discouraging, love and pride in ourselves is far overdue!
If we can’t be ourselves, if we cannot love ourselves fully, then we cannot be Self-realized!
We are all souls on a journey, playing in the sandbox of time and space. This means that, as individuals, we get to play with an infinite variety of possibilities. We are here to explore and discover, grow and create who we are, and who we want to become.
And because we are all individuals, everything has a right to exist, whether we agree with it or not.
Every opinion, every choice, every possibility is valid and serves a purpose for someone. Without an infinite variety of options, without free will, we cannot be individuals. If there are no differences, then there’s no clarity, no growth, no expansion!
Everyone has had the experience of being judged or made wrong. If you ever look at mainstream or social media, you can see finger-pointing, blaming, and a lot of “let’s-take-sides against the other team” games. You even see it inside families.
But, that is all pointless, because from the bigger perspective, pushing against anyone’s right to choose, is like saying; you don’t have a right to an opinion, and you don’t have a right to be You (have a right to exist as YOU)!
The game of making wrong or right is a trap that divides and resolves nothing. It even stunts the growth of those who partake in it.
We must remember who we are!
As individuals, we all get to choose! As individuals, we are called to think for ourselves, to listen with discernment, to question conclusions, and to ask ourselves — what do I really want to create?
Isn’t it awesome that we get to choose? So, why make someone wrong, why dim your own, amazing light to try to fit in when you are not designed for that?
It is time to be proud of who you are, and it is time to love yourself, without limits and conditions, and it’s time to teach children and many adults too … that not only is it okay to be different, it is to be celebrated!
How can someone who is an individual, be weird, when they are actually meant to be unique?
This makes you precious, not less than or weird!
I am an individualist and I’m very proud of that. It took me some time to understand this, and once I did, everything shifted for me. I’m not saying that I don’t enjoy community, but I do know, that if we really want to enjoy being in the company of others — then we have to be at peace with our differences! In fact, if we want to be in powerful, fulfilling relationships, then we must begin with honoring each other’s right to be an individual! Otherwise, you’re caught in a trap of always trying to change the other into you! And that job is already beautifully taken!
You are not weird, or “less than” — You Are Awesome!