We live in a culture built on the belief that we have to work harder to “get ahead,” “earn a living,” and “be successful”. Woven into that idea is the belief that the harder we work, the more valuable we become. Something worth asking oneself is; do I want to define my value based on how much I check off a list? Do I want to make working harder a requirement for success? And what is success for me anyway? Just because a lot of people believe something, doesn’t make it True (as in it’s True for everyone).
You get to choose.
Creating self-worth from the idea that you have to work harder to “earn your keep” is like driving at an accelerated speed through the most beautiful vistas imaginable, and missing all of it … because you’re “too busy” to see it. Do we really want to perpetuate “busyness” as a virtue? This idea of having to work harder to “be successful” creates massive issues with self-esteem along with perpetual cycles of stress and burnout. Eventually, you may feel that no matter how hard you try, it’s never enough. Have you ever pushed yourself to work harder only to get caught in the trap of having to do that … again … and again … and again ….?
If you want better, easier, and faster results … and want to be happier too, you need to find the power that is within you. Your true leverage is found in who you are being and how you are showing up. The mindset you cultivate, how you feel, and how you are managing your energy matters far more than what you do.
You just can’t exhaust yourself or be unkind to yourself and expect to be cheerful and happy or consistently produce the results you really want. Can’t happen!
You can't have a happy ending
at the end of an unhappy journey.
Repeated exhaustion, overworking … pushing yourself too hard … stress … going through the motions …. are all signs of unhappiness. I feel the need to mention this because inside the glorification of “overworking” many people, and I used to be one of them, have lost sight of what it really means to be happy. Happy means : “feeling or showing pleasure and contentment, being cheerful, untroubled, joyful, lighthearted, delighted.”
How often are you delighted, content and lighthearted? Just notice what is — without judging. Noticing, with loving awareness, will open the door to more satisfying possibilities! And as you slow down and learn to leverage the wisdom of Your Wise Inner Being, the Big YOU, you will have access to something that is far more powerful than trying to leverage effort, or working harder and harder. Ultimately, it is not what you are doing, but how you are doing it that truly matters. The underlying intentions and the way you are showing up IS where your true leverage is. Better, faster, lighter, happier, richer are not dependent upon how much you do, but on who you are being and how you are showing up.
No amount of action can match YOU when you’re in harmony with what you really want, and are showing up as the Aware, Aligned, In Your Power, On-Purpose Masterful Creator!
Explore: Which areas in your life require more “work” than you want to give? What feels hard? Is there an area in your life where you feel inadequate in some way? What do you really want? What are you willing to do in order to have that (in the way you want to have it)?